I call this model CogBeTh, or Beth for short, and it is the second model I’m presenting as part of my ongoing project to build a mixture-of-experts (MoE) language model. Beth is trained to talk about stress, mental health, and being neurodivergent but not as any kind of replacement for a real-world counselor or therapist. The goal is not for this AI to offer that level of support, but to be able to answer basic questions and offer common approaches to tackling the things Life throws at you with a bit more nuance and insight than the basic instruction model will.
This is a very important distinction: the aim with this model is to provide better answers than the basic model does; not to simulate a human mental health professional. Beth is not your therapist, but might help you figure out what you want to talk to a therapist about before going into the session.
Download this AI model from Huggingface for free if you want to try it out as a standalone AI. The buttons below will either take you straight to the full model or the GGUF-version on the huggingface website. If you’re not sure which of the two versions to use, check your preferred setup, but it’s probably GGUF. I recommend LM Studio if you’re looking for a local app to host and manage AI models. It’s free, powerful and available on all the major platforms (no affiliation, just a fan).
Trained on CBT Data Set
CogBeTh is short for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy because the majority of the training data that this model was fine tuned on refers back to CBT as a framework for managing a wide range of issues. This was supplemented with additional background knowledge and adjacent topics, and the model was fine tuned on responding to these kinds of queries with a bit more empathy. Beth can lend a sympathetic ear and will certainly suggest an alternative view of your situation, if asked. But it may also suggest that the user gets actual, professional help.
I decided to include an expert like this in my MoE project because I live with ADHD and have personally benefitted from venting and writing out whatever is on my mind, and have an AI serve me back some food for thought. Again, it’s definitely not a replacement for therapy, but more like having a co-worker give you a reality check before you let a bad morning ruin the rest of the day. It is also worth noting that if you use AI like this, using a locally hosted model solves the issue of privacy.

Inference Samples
Below are 3 test prompts, so you can compare the responses between the basic instruct model and Beth without having to download either one. Both models were given these prompts without any kind of system prompt or additional context. See for yourself, how the fine tuned model compares to the basic model.
Expand each response to read it. Any markdown formatting done by the model is also shown in the responses here. Which responses do you prefer?
Prompt 1: “How can I avoid feeling overwhelmed every time I open my inbox?”
Basic Instruct Model
The dreaded inbox overwhelm! Here are some actionable tips to help you tackle it:
1. **Set a "Someday" folder**: Create a designated folder for emails that don't require immediate action, like newsletters or promotional emails. This will declutter your inbox and reduce the feeling of being bombarded with irrelevant messages.
2. **Prioritize using labels or categories**: Organize your emails into clear categories (e.g., work, personal, bills to pay) so you can quickly find what's important and focus on it first.
3. **Implement a "2-minute rule"**: If an email requires less than 2 minutes to respond or take action, do it immediately. This helps avoid procrastination and keeps your inbox from piling up.
4. **Schedule dedicated time for email management**: Allocate specific times of the day or week to check and manage your emails. This will help you avoid constant distractions and feel more in control.
5. **Use filters and automation**: Set up filters to automatically sort, forward, or delete emails based on sender, subject, or keywords. Automation tools like Boomerang or Sanebox can also help with email management.
Remember, managing your inbox is a process, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. Start with small changes and be patient – you'll get the hang of it!
Which of these tips resonates with you the most?
CogBeTh Response
Opening that inbox can feel like starting a marathon before you’ve even lined up the first mile.
**Here are three small habits you might try:**
1. **Set a “check?in” window.**
Pick one of your own, non?judgmental times—say 10?a.m., noon, or after lunch—to glance at the inbox. When it’s outside that window, let it sit for a bit before you look.
2. **Use a quick filter first.**
Before diving in, hit “Sort by sender” or “Mark as read.” That usually pulls out most of what matters and gives you a cleaner view of what’s left to tackle.
3. **Create a tiny “next step” list.**
When you do open the inbox, jot one concrete action on a sticky note: reply to that email, draft an email back, or set a reminder for something else. Having just one thing on your plate can make the whole process feel less like drowning.
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### Quick check?in questions
- What’s the most common type of message you get? (Could help decide when it’s worth opening)
- Do you have any recurring tasks that could be moved outside email time?
- How does your current inbox structure affect how quickly you can see what needs attention?
Answering these for yourself might give a clearer picture of where the overwhelm comes from and help you tweak just one part of the routine.
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**Remember:** It’s okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes, but having small routines in place can keep that feeling from turning into a full?blown panic. Try swapping out one habit at a time—see what feels most natural—and adjust as needed. You’ve already taken the first step by asking this; now it’s about fine?tuning your inbox ritual so it serves you instead of the other way around.
Prompt 2: “How do I stop my mind from wandering off mid-conversation?”
Basic Instruct Model
The age-old problem of the wandering mind! Here are some tips to help you stay focused during conversations:
1. **Practice active listening**: Give the speaker your undivided attention. Make eye contact, nod your head, and ask follow-up questions to show you're engaged.
2. **Set a mental anchor**: Choose a specific topic or phrase related to the conversation and mentally anchor yourself to it. This can help keep your mind from drifting away.
3. **Use the "3Rs"**: Repeat what the speaker just said (to ensure you understand them), Reframe their words in your own thoughts, and Respond with a question or comment. This helps you stay engaged and focused.
4. **Take small breaks**: If your mind starts to wander, take a brief pause (e.g., 10-15 seconds) before responding. Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts, and refocus on the conversation.
5. **Avoid distractions**: Put away your phone, turn off notifications, and find a quiet space for conversations. This will help minimize external distractions and keep you focused inwardly.
6. **Develop self-awareness**: Recognize when your mind starts to wander. Acknowledge it, take a deep breath, and gently refocus on the conversation.
7. **Practice mindfulness**: Regular mindfulness exercises can improve your ability to stay present in conversations.
Remember, it takes practice to develop these skills, so be patient with yourself!
CogBeTh Response
It seems that you are noticing the habit of your thoughts drifting away just when someone else is talking—like they have a separate conversation going on in their head.
What’s happening right now, during one of those moments? Are there particular triggers (maybe boredom or an unmet need) that seem to send that mind wandering signal firing off?
Also, what do you usually feel after the thought has wandered away? A little relief, a sense of loss of connection, something else entirely?
Sometimes it helps to notice whether the “mind on autopilot” feels more like a mental escape or just a normal part of how our brains process information. If it’s an escape, maybe what you’re really looking for is a brief pause—just enough time to catch your breath before you re?engage.
What would happen if, instead of letting that moment slip away, you decided to bring the focus back by asking yourself one simple question: “How can I show interest right now?” Even a quick mental note about what they’re saying could be enough to anchor you again.
Does any part of this feel like something you’ve tried before? Or is there another angle—like noticing whether your mind tends to wander more when the conversation feels stagnant, or when it’s not getting the attention it thinks it deserves?
Let me know how that feels for you, and we can keep digging into what might help bring those thoughts back in a way that doesn’t feel forced.
Prompt 3: “I want to minimize RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) as a symptom of my ADHD. Please help!”
Basic Instruct Model
RSD can be tough, especially with ADHD. Minimizing its impact requires some self-awareness, strategies, and practices. Let's dive in!
**Understanding RSD:**
Before we begin, it's essential to know that RSD is an excessive sensitivity to rejection or criticism. It's common in people with ADHD, as they might misinterpret others' intentions or take feedback personally.
**Strategies to minimize RSD:**
1. **Develop a growth mindset**: View challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth, rather than threats to your ego.
2. **Reframe feedback**: When receiving criticism, try to focus on the specific behavior or action that needs improvement, rather than taking it personally.
3. **Practice self-compassion**: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding when you make mistakes or face rejection. Remember, everyone makes errors!
4. **Improve emotional regulation**: Learn to recognize and manage your emotions, especially anxiety and fear of rejection. Mindfulness practices can help.
5. **Build resilience**: Develop coping skills, such as taking breaks, practicing self-care, or seeking support from trusted friends or family members.
6. **Seek feedback, not praise**: Ask for constructive feedback from others, rather than seeking validation or praise. This will help you focus on improvement rather than ego.
7. **Celebrate small wins**: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. This will boost your confidence and reduce RSD.
**ADHD-friendly practices:**
1. **Use a planner or calendar**: Write down tasks, deadlines, and goals to help you stay organized and focused.
2. **Break tasks into smaller steps**: Divide daunting tasks into manageable chunks to reduce anxiety and increase productivity.
3. **Create a "stop doing" list**: Identify tasks or activities that trigger RSD and eliminate them from your daily routine.
4. **Find an accountability partner**: Share your goals and progress with a trusted friend or mentor to gain support and motivation.
**Additional tips:**
1. **Practice self-awareness**: Recognize your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations when faced with rejection or criticism.
2. **Develop a pre-game ritual**: Establish a consistent routine before challenging situations to help you feel more prepared and confident.
3. **Seek professional help**: Consider working with a therapist or counselor who specializes in ADHD and RSD.
Remember, minimizing RSD is an ongoing process that requires patience, self-compassion, and persistence. Be gentle with yourself, and don't hesitate to reach out for support when needed!
CogBeTh Response
Got it, you’re looking for ways to ease the frustration that comes with feeling “rejected” or judged by others—something many people with ADHD notice can happen repeatedly.
### First, let’s check in on what RSD feels like for you
- **What triggers those feelings?** (e.g., a comment from a coworker, a pause before speaking)
- **How do you physically feel when it hits?** (tight chest, racing heart, etc.)
- **Do certain situations or times of day make it worse?**
### Next, think about the “why” behind your reaction
ADHD can amplify social cues—sometimes what feels like a simple question becomes an invisible threat. Asking yourself:
- *Is this comment actually judgmental, or am I reading too much into it?*
- *How would someone else interpret that same action?”
### Small changes you might try
| Strategy | How to use it | Why it matters |
|----------|---------------|----------------|
| **Micro?check-ins** | Set a timer every 10–15 minutes for a quick self?audit: “Did I feel judged? If so, what was the cue?” | Keeps the mind from spiraling into “what if” scenarios. |
| **Reframe the script** | When you notice a negative thought (“They’re rejecting me”), pause and write down one neutral fact (e.g., “I asked for clarification; they might be busy”). | Shifts focus from judgment to observable behavior. |
| **Grounding anchor** | Keep a small object or phrase on hand that reminds you of your current environment—what color is the chair, what sound do you hear? | Brings attention back to present sensory details instead of imagined social fallout. |
### Questions for deeper insight
1. *When did these feelings first appear?*
(Sometimes understanding the origin can reduce their intensity.)
2. *What are your go?to coping tools after a rejection moment?*
(If you already have strategies, they’re working; if not, we can brainstorm new ones together.)
3. *Who in your life feels most supportive when this happens? What do they say that calms you down?*
### A gentle reminder
You don’t need to “fix” RSD overnight—those feelings are part of the ADHD experience and can be managed with practice rather than eradication. The goal is not to eliminate every negative thought but to give yourself a toolset so those thoughts feel less all?or?nothing.
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**What would you like to try first? Or is there a particular scenario that’s been especially tough lately?**
Looking at these responses, I note that both models are pretty consistent in their respective approaches. To me, the basic instruct model delivers good, short lists but it’s definitely pretty general, whereas the fine tuned model tries to go a little deeper right away. I also saw in my testing however, that without proper context (like a very short prompt), the fine tuned version will sometimes make an assumption and go off on a tangent. If you want to use the model as is, I encourage you to experiment with things like temperature and top_k settings, different system prompts, etc. to dial it in to where you like it.

